How To Pick A Family-Friendly Hotel You’ll Actually Enjoy

October 25, 2022

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Looking for a family-friendly hotel that doesn’t make you cringe? 

When we became parents, many of us assumed our days vacationing at chic or special hotels with a true sense of place were over.  From now on, we exist only in the land of the “family-friendly hotel” (meaning all about the kids). Right?


Fellow parents: Our time at nice hotels does not need to be limited to rare getaways from our kids. To the contrary, the same types of hotels we traveled to before kids can be part of the experiences we share with our children.

Isn’t there a little voice inside your head that’s hoping maybe, just maybe, you can still enjoy unique and authentic hotels, even as a parent?  Let’s make that voice louder.  

I want to redefine the term “family-friendly hotel” to mean a hotel the whole family can get excited about. That will mean something different for each family, and for each trip. But after lots of travel with our young kids, we’ve learned a thing or two about how to pick the right hotel!  

Here are our best tips to help you pick the family-friendly hotel that’s right for you. 

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Family Travel Resources

Before we dive in, let’s be sure you have our best family travel resources at your fingertips. We’re here to make it easier, and more fun, for you to plan a great trip with your kids.   

First, did you know we have a whole collection of recommended family hotels in the Caribbean? I’ll let you in on a secret, it’s sort of our pride and joy. Find the right Caribbean hotel for your family, with space for everyone. Explore our collection using search filters (like room size) that we designed just for parents. 

Wishing someone else would just handle the logistics for a change? We’re here for that too. We offer bespoke Caribbean family travel planning services. Our specialty? Helping parents narrow down the choices to identify the best Caribbean island and hotel for a top-notch family trip. 

And finally, want more family travel inspiration in your life? Sign up for our weekly newsletter, where we feature a Caribbean destination each month and highlight our favorite hotels and family travel tips and resources

Now, pour yourself a glass of wine and learn what we look for when picking a kid-friendly hotel… 


Image courtesy of Casa San Agustin.

9 Tips For Selecting Your Family-Friendly Hotel 

1. Find Kid-Friendly Hotels That Excite You (Not Just Your Kids)

Finding the right family-friendly hotel (different from family-focused resorts, which have their time and place) can set us up for a vacation that we can look forward to and enjoy together with our kids. But only if we can look forward to staying there. 

For many of us, a unique hotel can generate excitement about the trip in a way that mediocre all-inclusive and brand-name suite hotels do not. 

When traveling as a family, our hotel choice can set the stage for the entire trip. Choosing a hotel that appeals to our adult tastes and welcomes kids means we don’t have to sacrifice our own vacation in the name of parenthood. 

That, in turn, lets us actually enjoy the adventures and time away with our kids. 

2. Prioritize Family-Friendly Room Configurations 

Here’s what no parent wants: To be hiding in the dark in a hotel bathroom at 8pm, with nowhere to sit, while our kids struggle to fall asleep on the other side of the door.  

The right kid-friendly hotel is a place where the whole family can sleep and relax peacefully and comfortably while away from home. 

To do so, families need space to spread out. We also tend to spend more time in our hotel room than adult-only travelers because our kids need breaks and naps and wake up early – sometimes hours before it’s time to explore. To maximize the chances that kids will sleep on vacation, and adults too, the right hotel room configuration is key. 

The “right” hotel room setup obviously means different things to different families, depending on a few factors: age and number of kids; whether the kids sleep in cribs or beds; whether they sleep well if they can see mom and dad, etc. 

For all families, though, a little extra space – and a separate area that works as a sleeping space for children – goes a long way. So does a private patio or balcony where parents can unwind while kids are sleeping. (Even better if you can get a private pool!) 

Although we can get away without a full kitchen, a mini-fridge or kitchenette for storing milk, snacks, and early-morning breakfast foods is a big help too (and saves money). 

By way of example, one of my favorite hotel stays was with our daughter, age 3 at the time, in the Junior Suite at Casa San Agustin in Cartagena. The hotel room not only was spacious, but the layout provided plenty of sleeping space for everyone. The pull-out couch faced away from the bed, which created separation. There was an enormous bathroom that could fit a travel crib with no trouble. We were happy to take breaks from the bustling city of Cartagena to rest in this beautiful space. We were able to keep a relaxed vibe throughout the trip – all because we made the right hotel choice

Image courtesy of Hotel Las Islas, a stunning treetop hotel where the staff made our daughter feel right at home.

3. Warm and Welcoming Staff Makes A Big Difference

Everyone responds well to being treated like a VIP on vacation – kids included!  When hotel staff go out of their way to welcome our children as guests rather than baggage, then our children feel comfortable.  In turn, when children feel empowered and confident, good behavior often follows.  

The family-friendly hotels with local and welcoming staff are the ones I want to go back to time and again — and recommend to other traveling families. 

At Hotel Las Islas, for example, a treetop Caribbean oasis off the coast of Colombia, the concierge gave my daughter a stuffed animal on arrival. A small gesture, but one that made her trip, and set her up to be an appreciative and polite guest. 

How do you know in advance if a hotel will have great staff? When TripAdvisor reviews uniformly emphasize that the hotel staff were key to making a trip enjoyable, I take that as a great sign.  (We emphasize staff reviews in our hotel profiles, too!)  

And don’t forget that you can always ask for help! The write travel agent will have done the legwork to find a hotel that fits your priorities. 

4. Book Small Hotels – And Skip The High-Rises

When traveling without children, we can grab a bag, leave the room, and wing it if the unexpected arises.  And we hope that is does! On a family vacation, though, we find ourselves needing to run back to the room to use the bathroom, grab a snack, collect a forgotten pool toy, or give the kids a break from the sun. 

That’s much easier – and much less frustrating — when the room is a short walk away, rather than a trek through the lobby at a huge resort, a 20-flight elevator ride, and a hike down the hall. A client recently told me that she hates when an elevator stands between her and the beach, and I couldn’t agree more. 

What’s more, smaller boutique hotels tend to be designed with more interesting room configurations that fit families. They also tend to check many of the other family-friendly boxes on this list. To be sure, there is a time and a place for family resorts with waterslides, kids’ clubs, and multiple swimming pools.  But those perks are not necessary for kids to enjoy a family vacation. In my experience, it is sometimes easier to relax at a smaller, charming hotel with a local connection and fewer distractions. 

Two great examples of this are Secret Harbour Beach Resort in St. Thomas and XBalanque Resort in Roatan Honduras. Each is a small hotel, with just one restaurant, but the rooms are steps from the beach. You’ll never be too far to grab something from your room. 

hidden gem beach in St Thomas for kids - Secret Harbour

5. Good and flexible Dining Options Are Key

Before kids, an on-site restaurant was not on my hotel priority list.  But on a family vacation, there will always come a moment where we need to quickly and easily get food for our children. 

When we’re in an exotic location, though, it can feel like a waste of a meal to eat at a cookie-cutter hotel restaurant. That’s not the case when the hotel restaurant is one of the best in town (as is the case with Alma, the restaurant at Casa San Agustin) or serves up delicious local flavors (as we experienced at Bequia Beach Hotel’s Bagatelle restaurant). 

Having food available all day is another big plus. We often get frustrated when our kids are showing signs of hunger, but a hotel restaurant doesn’t open until noon for lunch, or 7pm for dinner. That’s one (among many) reasons we love the small boutique hotel, The Island House, in Nassau, with a pizza window open all afternoon. 

Plus, when traveling with kids who go to bed early, we sometimes want to eat dinner or order room service after the kids to go bed. That way, we can enjoy a few minutes of adult-vacationing with a glass of wine or cocktails.  Instead of feeling like we’re missing a fun experience by being cooped up in our hotel room with kids, good dining options make evenings at the hotel part of the fun.  

A kids menu is nice, but not a must-have for us. We find that most hotel restaurants can come up with something simple for our kids if we just ask.  

Image courtesy of Bequia Beach Hotel. The beachfront bar and restaurant.

7. A Great Breakfast Buffet Starts Your Day Off Right

With or without kids, I have a soft spot for a great hotel breakfast. But I especially love a good buffet, which gives kids choices (read: a sense of control). This lets our kids start the day on the right foot, and encourages them to eat enough for the big day ahead.  

Another detail we have noticed: early morning coffee.  Some hotel restaurants do not serve their complimentary breakfast until 8am or later.  We often need coffee much earlier. Fresh coffee in the lobby or restaurant helps us ease into the day.  

That’s not to say that I would rule out a hotel that didn’t have fresh morning coffee.  But before going to bed at a hotel your first night, make absolutely sure you know how and when you’re getting your first cup of joe in the morning. 

If you share my love for a hotel breakfast, Bastion Luxury Hotel in Cartagena is my family-friendly hotel recommendation for you.

Image courtesy of the Bastion Hotel in Cartagena, which is known for its delicious breakfast.

8. Look Closely At The Swimming Pools and Beaches

It’s no big secret that a pool or beach access instantly makes a hotel more family-friendly. But true relaxation is in the details. When kids are young, a swimming pool with no shallow end means one parent is always in the water. But sometimes it’s glorious when we can take a minute to relax on the pool deck, while our kids play safely in a shallow end.  Zero-entry pools, or pools with shallow platforms (called a Baja Shelf, we have a filter for that!) can make a big difference in terms of our ability to relax. 

Likewise, a beach with a gentle slope into the Caribbean Sea (rather than crashing waves) gives small children more freedom to play near the water without raising our stress levels. And if your kids are learning to snorkel, easy access to a calm beach makes all the difference. 

9. Ask About Childcare Services

If we’re traveling for a week or more, we try to pick a hotel with babysitting services. Having a date night at a local restaurant makes us feel like we’re on vacation, too. We also love scuba diving when on tropical vacations – which is one thing that really can’t be done in a kid-friendly way. A few hours of babysitting lets us squeeze in one of our favorite activities.

Before we book a hotel – or shortly thereafter – we like to reach out and understand if the hotel will help us to arrange childcare, or if we need to figure it out for ourselves.

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There you have it! My tips for how to redefine “family-friendly hotel” to mean a hotel we can all enjoy.  One that will set us up for a successful family vacation. Still feel overwhelmed? We can get you there, so just reach out!